Do you find it easy to let go

Posted: 2nd June 2014

Letting go can be really difficult at times. Carolyn Trafford from Reflections Coaching tells us how she stepped out of her comfort zone and faced her fears.

I’d already had a tough morning.  We’d been on the climbing wall and whilst I’m happy to climb, abseiling back down terrifies me. It stems from an activity week I had whilst at college.  I was less adventurous than I am now.  I don’t remember the instructors but looking back I think they had little patience with a group of 16-18 year olds.  I failed to trust them and would not lean back so I spent most of my abseil bump bump bumping down the rock face — not a great experience.

The Calvert Trust instructors were different, although they have to dedicate much of their time to people who had physical disabilities to deal with and I found myself battling with my own emotional disabilities.  My inner self talk was convincing me that abseiling was not a great idea.  I did it, but getting caught up in my own emotions resulted in me having less attempts and I couldn’t quite reach the top because I knew anything I climbed I’d have to come back down again.

Letting go can be really difficult at times.

So in the afternoon, I faced the Zip Wire. I watched 6 other people go down it, roped up, secure, some seated, some standing, and me, not knowing if I was even going to attempt it or not.  In the end I decided to talk back to my self-talk. One voice telling me I didn’t have to do it, the other reminding myself that if I could stand up in front of 300 strangers and deliver stand-up comedy then this little Zip Wire would be a breeze.

I went for it.  Letting go was the hardest thing ever.  I bit my lip

(Literally) and allowed my feet to lift from the ground, the zip wire did the rest.  Now as a fading memory I can’t recall what scared me so much — I think it was the unknown elements.  How would I feel?

Letting go can be really hard, especially when we’re stepping into the unknown, but often the thought of doing something is worse than the action.  I now have 2 things to remind me that I am capable of stepping out of my comfort zone, performing stand up and now zip wires.

What stops you letting go?

Whether it’s big or small, letting can of an idea, a dream, a thought, can be really tough.  If there’s something you’d like to let go of so that you can move on and achieve, give Carolyn a call on 07714 216388

today so book your free consultation.

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