Circle of Excellence
Have you ever thought how coaches coach themselves? As a coach I do this all the time and one day last week I was presented with an opportunity to coach myself BIG TIME.
I had been fortunate enough to be invited to a small company in Hertfordshire to interview a prospective client; a female executive who is so busy climbing the ladder of success that she is leaving ‘herself’ behind.
Anyway, the Director of this company invites me over to meet the Board members so that I can get to know them and visa versa.
I set off on a beautiful sunny afternoon, enjoying the journey, thinking about the task ahead. Coaching myself with regard to how I wanted to feel in the meeting, what I wanted to tell them about Compass Life Coaching and the work I do etc, etc, etc.
First hurdle coming up. I get lost, I know I’m near but just can not find the rural location. So I have to phone the Director and ask for directions (no pun intended). First thoughts of doubt start creeping into my head. What will he think of someone who can not even follow a map? How silly will I feel phoning the Director for directions? Will he think I am a stupid woman driver? You get the idea?
I find the farm track up to the beautiful converted barn that houses the business and up I go. Its black cinders, a mile or so long and I have just had new tyres fitted to my car.
Second hurdle arising. Worries about my car, expense of tyres and possible damage to suspension. Busy, busy thoughts that detract me from my purpose. Feelings of frustration and even a little anger for good measure. Does this put me in a good state for the task ahead? No?
I enter the car park, after a long and slow drive up the farm track that now extends into the car park. I see a man appear at a door way and he waves a welcome to me, as I respond I see a parking spot to my right and begin to pull into it.
To my shock and horror my car comes to a thumping halt, stops dead, jolts me backwards and cuts out. I sit there shocked and confused, what have I done, what’s happened, oh my God he (the Director) has seen me and is approaching the car.
Third hurdle (no mountain) appears now. I realise that I have driven into a thick wire cable that supports a telegraph pole. It does have thin yellow strips of tape around it in some kind of pathetic effort to warn people it is there, but I had not seen it.
Director arrives at car, I wind window down and he asks ‘what happened there then?’ If ever I wanted the ground to open up and swallow me this was it. How did I feel at this moment? What thoughts were going through my head? How was my confidence level? How did I feel about the task ahead? Aghhhhh!
So, I tell the Director I will park the car and see him inside – strategy to be alone and gather my thoughts
I park the car, survey the damage to my car and then park my thoughts.
Then I stand by my car, look out on to the lovely scenery, feel the breeze on my face, the sun on my skin and thank God I am alive. I get out my ‘imaginary’ Circle of Excellence and stand in the centre.
I recall the state in which I want to put myself in for the task ahead, confident, assured, friendly, approachable, knowledgeable informative, unique Julie Foster. As I do this I pinch my middle finger and thumb of each hand together. This anchors my thoughts and puts me in the state of mind I require.
Job done, fold up circle and replace in my imaginary pocket.
I proceed towards the building with a smile on my face, a skip in my step and only positive thoughts about the task ahead.
I am delighted to tell you that I have been awarded the contract to work with the executive but better than that I know that my coaching skills, my circle of excellence and my positive thoughts will always stand me where I want to be.
Where are you standing now? Are you where you want to be? Do you want to find out how to get there?
If you would like to know about building your own Circle of Excellence and how to evoke the state of your choice give me a call.
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